Erase Fearful Feelings From Your Life is a Forward Steps guest article written by (ad) Guy Finley
That seemingly scary condition, whatever it may be, is not the problem. It’s your reaction that has you shaking.
Being conscious of your fear empowers you to interact with it in an entirely new way.
This new inner relationship gives you the power to be awake to your fear’s scary influences, instead of being their unconscious slave.
As each day you discover something new about the shaky nature of your own fearful reactions, they lose their power over you. Why? You see them for what they have always been: unintelligent, mechanical forces.
To be consciously afraid means that you know you are frightened, but at the same time, to know that these very fears, as real as they may seem, are not you.
It’s time to let it go, which you can do anytime you want. Here’s how: Dare to proceed, even while being afraid.
Employing this simple but higher instruction to proceed even while being afraid will not only show you the strange faces of all those habitual reactions that have had you on the run, yet it will also empower you to start seeing through them.
As you’ll gratefully discover, each of your new insights into their actual nature removes some of their power over you. Better yet, their loss is your gain!
The following step will help you face those fearful feelings and erase them from your life once and for all.
Do you know someone whom you would rather run from than run into? Most of us do! Nevertheless, starting right now, resolve never again to avoid any person who scares you.
In fact, whether at home or work, go ahead and walk right up to that critical or aggressive person and say exactly what you want, instead of letting the fear tell you to do what it wants. Have no ideas at all about the way things should or shouldn’t go.
Of course, this exercise is not an excuse to be cruel or rude.
Remember, your aim in working with this step in self-liberation is not to win an ego victory, it’s rather to watch and learn something new about yourself.
Drop any other misplaced self-conscious concerns. Let that person see you shake, if that’s what starts to happen. What do you care? It’s only temporary. Besides, that unpleasant person before you can’t know it, but you’re shaking yourself awake!
Stand your inner ground even if it feels as though you might fall through the floor. Allow your reactions to roll by you, instead of letting them carry you away as they’ve always done in the past.
If you’ll fight for yourself in this new way, it won’t be the floor beneath you that you feel open. It will be your inner eyes!
You see that these fears do not belong to you and that they never have. Everything about your life changes in this one moment.
Here’s what has been revealed to you:
You have never been afraid of another person. The only thing you’ve ever been frightened by is your own thoughts about that person. Yes, you did feel fear, but it wasn’t yours. It wasn’t towards someone stronger than you.
The fear you always felt was in what you thought they were thinking about you.
Amazing isn’t it? You have been afraid of your own thoughts.
Excerpted from “Design Your Destiny” by (ad) Guy Finley
Author:Visit the Life of Learning Foundation site to (ad) receive Guy’s 6-hour eCourse The Illusion of Limitation on 7 MP3 downloads, free. Guy Finley is the best-selling author of The Secret of Letting Go, The Essential Laws of Fearless Living, and more than 40 books and audio albums on self-realization, including his brand new book The Secret of Your Immortal Self.
Guy is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-study located in southern Oregon where his talks are given four times each week. Guy is a faculty member at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York and is a regular expert contributor to Beliefnet and the Huffington Post.